We are anxious about what your kind are doing to our world…
When you place a Cartesian grid over the land, build grid-like buildings, and live with the Lego-like modernism of contemporary interiors that sense of being situated through a living thing like a forest, or a mountain or a river is lost. To live the more deeply connected life that nature demands of us means to have a consciousness that roams over the entire planet, encountering all of its situated peoples and asking of them: what are you doing to our world? The grid is at one end of a spectrum occupied at the other by war, all of which hurts and disrespects nature.
In the magic that is research & timing colluding to give you what you need, I opened up my computer this morning to where I had left off reading, and found this perfect passage, so relevant. Thanks I Ching and Maja D’Aoust.
If we are already involved in defective relationships, these become the means by which we learn the “way of the Sage”. In correcting them we learn the true power of modesty as a shield and sword. Modesty alone arouses the Creative Power. Through modesty, that is, through doing nothing at all, we achieve everything.
“Coming to Meet” (Hexagram 44) describes a correct relationship as one in which two people come to meet each other halfway. Halfway means that both are open and receptive to each other. Coming to meet halfway also must be mutually voluntary, based on the principle of spontaneous attraction described in “The Marrying Maiden” (54) as the “essential principle of relatedness.” We must maintain reserve in our relationships until the coming to meet is mutual. Maintaining reserve is the correct action (or non action). Coming to meet halfway is possible only between people who are mutually honest and sincere in their way of life. It is the great joy of such relationships that they are full of mutual trust and sensitivity.
We understand “coming to meet” better if we compare it to a contract made between two people. If one is indolent in performing his part, or has mental reservations about what he is willing to do, the contract may fail. Although such a person may have entered the contract without any immediate objections, his attitude may contain objections which arise only at the time his obligations are to be performed. Such a person may secretly feel that contracts are not to be taken seriously, or, on seeing how difficult it is to fulfill his part, he may hedge on doing it because of some idea that all contracts are subject to fitting into his concept of what is reasonable. In any case, it is impossible to come to meet such a person halfway, and the I Ching repeatedly advises us that it is better for us to go on our way alone and to wait until the fundamentals of unity are firmly established before we commit ourselves to other people. When we cater to another person’s ego because it is uncomfortable to go on our way alone, we choose the high road of comfort rather than the low road of modesty and loneliness. Withdrawal from the high road is the action often counseled by the I Ching.
If a person is treating us presumptuously, and if we remind him of this, he may correct his habits for a few days, but gradually revert to the same pattern of neglect. This he does from egotistical indolence-some- thing in his point of view makes him feel he has the right to be indifferent. Likewise, we must withdraw from the indolent person, “cutting our inner strings” of attachment to him, and no longer look at his wrongdoings with our inner eye. This enables the person to see what he is doing in the mirror created by the void. By dispersing any alienation we may feel, we also lend strength to his superior self. Momentarily, his ego is overcome. We need to realize that this change is short-lived, but it is an essential beginning. The change does not last because it is only founded on his response to feeling the void. It becomes a permanent change when he sees clearly that unity with others depends upon his devoting himself to correcting his mistakes. Only then can we abandon a more formal way of relating to him.
The strength of a person’s ego corresponds to the amount of attention it can attract. On the most simple level this recognition is by eye-to-eye contact; on the more basic inner level we strengthen other people’s egos by watching them with our inner eye. If we are annoyed with someone, we are watching him with our inner eye. Only when we withdraw both our eye-to-eye contact and our inner gaze do we deprive his ego of its power. An I Ching line says, “We cannot lead those whom we follow.” By following others with our inner eye we do not walk our own path but attend to theirs. This gratifies their ego. It is as if we are attached to them by hidden underground cables, which must be cut. It is as if we are acting as a lifeguard who is watching to save them from themselves. As long as they recognize that someone is going to save them, they carelessly begin to swim with the sharks. They do this not only because they feel a false sense of security, but because it guarantees that we pay attention to them. As long as we play the role of lifeguard, the others we care about will not save themselves; for their own good it is necessary to withdraw, cut our inner strings and leave matters up to them; this is also to cease doubting them.
Inner withdrawal is an action of perseverance that has its own reward, but only when it is modest perseverance, not an attempt to impress others by getting them to notice our withdrawal. In many situations the problem is resolved, not through any external action that arises spontaneously on our part, but by simply “letting it happen,” through letting go of the problem. Our “action” is to “let go”.
Coming to Meet: Advice from the I–Ching
From “The Challenge of the Heart”- Love, Sex and Intimacy in Changing Times, edited by John Wellwood (Shambhala 1985)
Joanna Macy’s essay on the Council of All Beings and below a sculptural conversation with trees
Beautiful stories from The Weekly Service held every week in Melbourne:
“We are witnessing the end of the old story of the world – a story of separation from ourselves, each other and the planet. A new story of reunion and connection is emerging. Our mission is to help write this new story by offering the experiences and information people need to reimagine a life filled with more meaning, love, gratitude, compassion, awe and connection. We believe that if more people are deeply connected to themselves, each other and nature, this planet and all its inhabitants will thrive.”
Really, this Trump thing is seeming quite worthwhile to me. We are no longer able to pretend that things are ok. People are in the streets, important issues are coming to light. Now that we are able to see so clearly the horror show that politics has become, maybe we have real hope for deep change.
I spent a little time searching for info on the possibility that we should, as a global community, stop making new cars. The idea doesn’t seem to be out there in the internet yet, most of the car info was industry trend reports and delight at how well the new car business has been doing over the last few years. I found this to support the proposal though:
Check out Sheerness in England on the maps of google, take a minute to spot the enormous carpark on the coast.
My four-year-old just came over and said to me:
Why are there so many cars? Why are they all jammed in?
I explained that they are waiting to be sold, and there seem to be too many.
Well, they should stop making them.
A few more threads in the weave… I went searching for some new podcasts, and on one of those meanders that started at Expanding Mind with Erik Davis (thanks Laura!), leading through the Progressive Radio Network to Derrick Jensen’s Resistance Radio, and finding myself in the realms of the herbalists. Rosemary Gladstar’s name came up on For the Wild, and then I was drawn to the title of this episode, Nina Simons on the Holistic Endeavor of Shifting Culture. When I get super clear in these synchronous moments, I realise that my deepest commitment is to consciousness, and in particular the worldview shifts that the dominant culture needs to make to… to what? Save our planet/save ourselves/save our souls?
Nina Simons says at 15.30 “I have come to understand that there are as many ways to respond to the multiple, interdependent crises and challenges we face as there are human beings… and that communication is absolutely a form of activism, and so is raising children…”
At 31.20, she quotes Tiokasin Ghosthorse saying:
In my language, the word we use to describe the soil means, Who we used to be.
My ongoing love for language, art, activism, and my political insistence on the magical properties of my own daily life are symptoms of this deeper consciousness, though I find it easy to get lost in the busyness of the superficial, even with these commitments in place. And although there is a genre of eco-folk that seems to be required listening when researching interesting ecostuff, I even liked some of the music in this one:
[Note to podcast makers everywhere: if you have song you are considering for a musical interlude that starts with a freaky whisper, maybe don’t use it. You need to consider that you are in my head. I listen to podcasts when I am lying beside my little girl as she falls asleep. A freaky whisper in my head at the end of a normal human conversation is just frightening.]
Just finished reading Aliens & Anorexia, and fresh in love with Chris Kraus
Talking about Thomas Gokey’s art/activism 31:00
CK: “Social practice infused with the drive and spiritual juice that makes it like art, this other type of mode of working and being at the same pitch and intensity…”
TG: “Maybe I should give up on the art world completely… I want to make art and be a human being.”
YM: “CK’s attention to the specificity of people’s lives…”
Mmm, nice. So true, so ‘feminine’. It’s this space she creates that feels a little like breathlessness, but is actually breathing room. Breathless because it’s exciting to feel like the specifics matter. Breathing room to live a life of emotions, ideas, politics and art, and feel as if that is enough.